Life is funny – when things are going well – and yes I hate to say it “according to plan” or at least close enough to a version of the story I have a strong preference for – then I can watch the ebb and flow of the many moments go by, smiling inwardly at how well I’m letting go, surrendering to life, nature and the universe. Look at me, experiencing my life as it really is. Yay!
It is right about that point that typically something comes along and knocks me off my feet. It could be real or perceived – sweeping through like a rogue wave that dumps you on the shore filling your swimmers (or togs) with sand that you’ll find in every crevice for days after…
Now this is when I really have to show up and sometimes I don’t, or at least not right away. I can get stuck holding on to the pre-wave mood, when I was lying on my back floating gently on the ocean, gracefully moving over the waves with the warm sun kissing my cheeks, breathing it all in and feeling strong and connected. That is where I want to be – I want to go back to that feeling, that way of being, that place where I was at one with everything so easily and elegantly.
When moments, situations or general life is not delivering what we want or even what we think we need it may take a few breaths (or more) to adjust, gather ourselves to that point of recognition that says “Okay, this is what’s going on” – accepting and acknowledging what is and not what was (or what is no longer). I’ve found the longer the delay in this acceptance, the longer the wrestle can take. What I have also found extremely helpful is no judgment, no blame, no avoidance or more positively – being gentle, having compassion and taking responsibility – all of which can start the shift. Taking personal accountability keeps us empowered, it builds confidence, gives inner strength and it helps with clarity, determining our action, shifting us to movement and toward evolution.
We are living our lives 24/7 – there is no day off and avoiding or denying things as they are only delaying the riches that living a full life gives to us.