I got a text from a friend the other day, reporting something insignificant on another friend that I had a falling out with. I got instantly triggered. I went from being in an excited mood about a new project to filled with anger, frustration and then being utterly distracted.
I got agitated and as much as I tried to push the situation from my thoughts, my mind got busier and busier. I eventually calmed down and pondered about getting in touch with them. Maybe we need to work this out? Maybe we don’t? Then I remembered a story Jeff Kober told me, about someone in his life that stopped speaking to him, and him realising regardless, he didn’t need their permission to love them. The essence being that whether we resolve a situation or not at this moment, or later, or never at all, is pointless anyway if we can’t still love through the whole process and move from the heart. This is not to say boundaries aren’t set, and terrible behaviour accepted. But these things can be in place and we can not harden our hearts – even if from a distance.
Ram Dass says, “The thinking mind is what is busy. You have to stay in your heart. You have to be in your heart. Be in your heart. The rest is up here in your head where you are doing, doing, doing”.
So the key is to get out of our heads, and stop trying to work it out intellectually, and move into our hearts. I sat to meditate afterward and at the end sent a huge stream of love to this old friend of mine, and I felt 100x better. I trust that they received to whatever degree they needed to, that love.
Sent with love,