Recently I watched Oprah Winfrey being interviewed after her Cecil B. DeMille award at the Golden Globes. She said,
“The greatest lesson I’ve learned throughout my career came from Maya Angelou, actually, when I was first meeting her. After I’ve known her for a while, she said, ‘Baby, you need to know that when people show you who they are, you believe them the first time, and your problem is it takes you 29 times to see the same lesson coming in a different skirt or wearing a different pair of pants.’
So I think that has been one of my greatest wisdom teachings, is to asses from people’s behavior, their actions—not just towards me, but towards other people—who they are and how they behave, because if people talk about other people, they’ll talk about you. So I think in business and personal relationships, that’s been my greatest lesson. Also staying grounded, has been really great for me.”
I was training in the dojo the other day and my karate Sensei was getting frustrated with all of us, as we were continually making obvious mistakes. He sat us down at the end of the class and explained that mistakes were needed. But the first time, we hear something, most of us ignore it. Then the second time, we continue to ignore, then after the third time, we get a shock when something ‘bad’ happens e.g. we hurt ourselves or someone was upset with us.
He asked, what would your life look like if you stopped ignoring all the messages, hints and flat out obvious signs. What if we accepted our humanity and welcomed the mistakes and the learnings, but not the same ones over and over and over again.
I took the message, and am exploring it deeply. Join me.
Sent with love,