Spend one day, but make it the entire day, in being acutely aware of how many preferences you lug around, and how attached to them you are. How many opinions you hold. How much internal struggle goes on in your head, about how things should be/could be/might be different and how that imaginary projection would change your life in all the imagined ways. Once you have utterly exhausted yourself with how much noise is being made in your own mind with all these likes and dislikes, judgements and opinions, it’s much easier to allow them to drop.
For they are all fruitless. The path of least resistance isn’t the path of not having a single preference, opinion or judgement. That’s impossible. But the path of peace and joy comes from not believing each and every one and just letting it fall to the wayside. It’s having no attachment to the preferences.
To read the full piece by the Third Patriarch of Zen, Sengstan on the Hsin Hsin Min see here.