Your brain and your attention have limited bandwidth. A certain download of data each day. Only so much you can upload into life. So what are you using your bandwidth for? What behaviour are you rewarding with attention? What energy are you using up each day on what? Who is getting the faster bandwidth, and who is getting your dropping out?
Years back, I started to notice I had clients and friends and people in my life that seemed to be getting all my attention because they made me nervous in some way. Friends that would lose it if I had to cancel, or clients who would freak out constantly and were like ticking time bombs. The kind, generous, and easy people in my life seemed to always be coming in second to the scarier people, and would get a tired, exhausted version of me when they did. Once I identified that I was in fact rewarding bad behaviour, I changed everything. It took acknowledging that there was limited bandwidth and I had to decide where I was going to place my awareness.
What will you do with your limited daily/weekly/monthly bandwidth?
Written with love,
Jac x