A rope is braided together to strengthen it, without the multiple pieces threaded together it is weak and can break easily. I find too often, I want just the joy and happiness as the threads weaving together, and it’s easy to ignore that it is, in fact, the sadness and the sorrow that are a key part to appreciating the ‘good things’ in the first place.
Recently I had a really upsetting event that tipped me off-kilter. All kinds of anger and frustration overwhelmed me. Once I steadied myself, the emotion under this was deep sadness, for the person I was dealing with was obviously incredibly unsettled and emotionally not okay. Whenever we deal with someone who is emotionally unhinged, it brings about a deep sadness, for we know ourselves when we are stuck in a similar state and it’s far from fun. To think someone might permanently live there is really awful. Once working out the emotion under the reactions, I could work with this sadness with all the heat taken out of it. Once tapped into, the beauty of being a human was present again, and boundaries could be laid out, and a more clear and kind approach could be taken.
Which mind you was rebutted, but at least I was steady and knew clearly my intentions, which I would not have had I raged against their rage. I share this as we each get to make a choice, none on of us is immune to interacting with other people, and sometimes they are small knots, sometimes much bigger ones that need unpicking. Underneath all of it is some primal emotion that is driving us with other feelings flying in like metal filings to a magnet. Getting to the core of it is incredibly helpful.
Written with love,